"Hes married! Ew."

There is a strange sense of liberation once your fears have been confronted. You really don't want something to happen, and then, of course, it happens, and..life goes on.

Today the girl my husband was talking to, kind of outed our open relationship on Facebook. What's worse, she really didn't share the truth, but implied that my husband was cheating and overall misrepresented very much what was going on.

I went through several reactions since this happened. Strong anger, anxiety, plain frustration and self-pity. It was a slap in the face, a disgrace to my family. I was quietly watching as her friends were pouring dirt on my husband with her acting like she has no idea about the real deal. She blocked my husband, preventing him from saying a thing. I didn't want to comment and go down to her level engaging in this BS of a discussion.

Our marital arrangement is private and not up for public opinion. We never did anything that wasn't consensual with everyone involved, and were always open with them. If you have a problem, talk about it directly. And do not take this outside, that's just common courtesy.

I'm getting used to the idea of some people knowing by now. Them not knowing the real truth is what's disturbing. But I know that true friends will accept us for who we are and will know to ignore obvious lies. If they don't - oh well, it's OK. The world is full of people and new friends to come.

Despite all this crap, my marriage has been growing stronger with every day recently. I get a smile on my face just because of writing this last sentence and thinking about my husband.

They can judge. I'll be happiest with the life I live.