Today I got pulled out of my Math classes routine to sub for a health teacher for one period. I don't know exactly what the name of the class was, but the students were watching a video on how to say no, particularly in a context of someone pressuring you to have sex. It was one of those 80's videos where you wonder if they really haven't made a single video like this since then, but surprisingly almost everyone was paying attention.

In my mind I got back to the question someone asked me quite a bit back, what does sex mean to me. Today I thought trust. Even if it's non-committal sex, you need to have that temporary trust. Trust in your partner having some basic respect for you, that they will honor your "no" whenever it comes, that they will be clean, and that there will be no kiss-and-telling after the fact. I don't even know how you can honestly enjoy sex when you don't feel safe and secure with the other person. At least that's my woman's take on this.