I originally wrote this last weekend, having someone in mind, but then I realized that it's more of a message that could be applicable to many other men and women.
I don't like hearing people talk about "mistakes" that one makes in bed. It is a very subjective experience, and a terrible "mistake" with one partner can be a huge turn-on for someone else. But sometimes what you do is like common sense.
Sorry, dude. It's just not cool when you talk about missing your best sex ever with that other girl, while I'm laying naked next to you, making an effort to make it good for both of us. I'm not at all claiming I'm the best.There will always be someone better than me at something, BUT at that time you were with me, and it would be nice to feel like I'm your number one for that particular moment.
I didn't like hearing I was average. How would you feel if I did that to you? Make me special and I'll want to pay you back tenfold.
I'm not necessarily talking feelings. You know it didn't mean anything to me either. Just try to enjoy it together, even if it's only for now. Let me be fun, give me a compliment, show me that I'm wanted, prove me wrong if I'm self-conscious, just make me feel sexy...and you'll be surprised.
Listen. Not only to my words. Listen to my tongue, fingers, and hips. If you don't listen, I won't be "talking". I will be laying like a log and none of us will get anything out of it.
Do not compare. If it were really about ratings, you'd see me hopping in bed with a timer and a ruler, not that any of it really matters. I believe that in order to make sex amazing, you gotta have more than one person trying. Together you figure out what works for you and your partner, form a unique experience, which is simply not comparable to what you had with others. If you don't like something - talk, show me how to do better, help me. It's partly your failure, too, because we're in this together.
Lastly, I'm not asking for much, just make me feel like a goddess...others did. -- slap in the face. Sorry, couldn't resist :) --
and yes, I already feel like a bitch for this
ReplyDeleteYOU feel like a bitch?! The person that said that to you should feel like the biggest ass on the planet. Make sure you remember to keep yourself to you when they come around asking for some "quality time" and when they are wonderin why you are sittin there with a satisfied and yet sarcastic smile on your face, tell them to go find that someone who made it super great way back when. You don't have to take that kind of crap from people and I'd be damned if "S" ever said anything like that to me. He wouldn't get any for quite some time.
ReplyDeleteThis is the type of thing that requires ridiculous amounts of money spent on cards, roses, flowers, candies, dinners and other attempts and sorry. =)
-- slap in the face - YES!! Priceless, hahaha!!
well...for one thing, truth be told, I pushed the guy towards that whole awful comparison route. Was completely not my intention, but that's what happened in the end, and a few days ago I was thinking 'shoulda known better' :) See, the main thing, he wasn't an ass then, he was a DUMBass. I just know very well he bore no ill will, that's why I wasn't pissed, just offended. and then it was kinda hypocritical of me to preach about this awesome intimate experience with all parties being responsible, right as I'm posting this online even before I had guts to openly confront the problems with the guy. It's like I say don't judge while I'm judging him.
ReplyDeleteok, don't want to make the comment longer than the post =) Everything is good now.